It is so difficult to go through the process of choosing a good therapist. Often, the time when we are looking is also when we are most likely to find it the hardest to judge a good therapist from a bad one.
If you want to discover how bad therapists can be just try enrolling on a counsellor training course, or a therapy training course. Sadly these are packed with some very unwell people who I wouldn’t trust my cat to, let alone the mental health and well being of a loved one, and yet, they are passing through these courses in their hundreds and thousands.
One of the biggest problems with the system is that the training courses for counsellors and therapists test knowledge not skill. I know the facilitators of these courses would like us to believe that they teach both but the reality is that, for any academic course, they can only provide a course if they can demonstrate they are testing knowledge.
I am clearly not against academic courses or the gaining of knowledge. PROMIS has played a pivotal role in developing post graduate training for addiciton therapists and our course had 30 therapists each year on a 3 year MSc in Addiction Psychology. This is very necessary and very useful for the counsellors. The difficulty is the relative importance that the therapists themselves put on this form of knowledge.
In a fascinating study, Described in the excellent book, The Heart and Soul of Change,
trawling the web I came accross an interesting site called Stop Bad Therapy. It
Here is how Dr. Campbell interprets the results of the list of questions.
Copyright 1994 by SIRS, Inc. Reprinted by permission from Beware the Talking Cure, p. 247-251. All rights reserved.
If you answered ‘yes’ to only one or two questions, the chances are better than fifty-fifty that your therapist is competent. You and he will probably be able to resolve whatever doubts you have about your therapy.
If you answered ‘yes’ to between three and five questions, it is imperative that you and your therapist resolve your concerns. Otherwise, therapy may deteriorate into a waste of your time, money, and enery.
If you answered ‘yes’ to between six and nine questions, you need to seriously discuss the direction of your treatment with your therapist. Nevertheless, do not feel too optimistic about the outcome of such a dialogue. A therapist who provokes this many ‘yes’ answers, is likely very entrenched in an antiquated paradigm. You may find it necessary to fire this therapist.
If you answered ‘yes’ to ten or more questions, you need to carefully question your therapist about the relevance of your therapy. If the outcome of this discussion fails to reassure you, decisive action is warranted. Rather than walk away from this therapist, or even trot, consider sprinting from therapy as rapidly as you can. Any therapist who elicits this many ‘yes’ responses is likely incompetent. He is probably doing you much more harm than good.
Has your therapy limited itself to giving you a better understanding of the difficult situations in your life?
Do you feel more worried and discouraged since you began therapy?
Is your therapist so preoccupied with your insight that he neglects to outline specific courses of action for you to undertake?
Is your therapist intensely interested in the minutiae of your fantasies, feelings, and/or thoughts?
Does a great deal of your therapy seem to focus on issues that are trivial or obscure?
Is your therapist more curious about you than he seems committed to helping you (do you feel reduced to an object of study by your therapist)?
Despite a situation where you have felt ready to terminate therapy, has your therapist repeatedly advised you not to?
Does your therapist focus primarily on the events of your childhood and overlook the present-day issues of your life?
Does your therapist overemphasize your deficits and shortcomings while ignoring your strengths and resources?
Does your therapist frequently tell you things about yourself which seem wildly speculative?
Does your therapist spend a good deal of time explaining how you supposedly feel about him?
When differences of opinion exist between you and your therapist, does he almost always insist that you are mistaken?
Does your therapist seem to see himself as intellectually superior?
Does your therapist appear to distrust you; is he quick to assume that you are merely victimizing yourself and sabotaging your therapy?
Does your therapist insist that he is a much more important figure in your life than he really is?
Does your therapist frequently talk about other people in your life, but refuse to include them in your therapy despite their availability?
Does your therapist attribute malevolent motivations to other people in your life, and indict them as a result?
Does your therapist insist that you postpone important decisions in your life (marriage, job change, educational plans), pending his permission for you to make those decisions?
Has your therapy created a situation where you feel pulled in one direction by your therapist, and pulled in another direction by someone else in your life?
Is your therapist a remote, aloof individual who exhibits all the human warmth of a computer?
Has your therapist insisted that you cannot discuss you therapy with anyone else in your family?
Has your therapist become a good friend with whom you spend most of your sessions chatting amiably?
Have you assumed that your therapist is competent merely because he seems to be a pleasant, personable individual?
Does your therapist act as if he provides you with a uniquely important relationship that is unavailable to you in other sectors of your life?
Does your therapist seem to assume that he is a charismatic figure?
Is your therapist committed to pursuing ill-defined goals such as ‘growth’ and ‘existential quests?’
Does your therapist seem so bound and determined to be your friend that he disregards the resolution of your problems?
Is your therapist preoccupied with telling you about his own feelings?
Does your therapist seek to determine where some feeling or emotion is located in your body?
Is your therapist more concerned about how you experience your feelings, compared to what (or who) influences those feelings?
Does your therapist seem more interested by what transpires in a session, than by what transpires in your life outside of therapy?
Does your therapist expect that you should imitate him and adopts his values?
Does your therapist assume that his relationship with you will suffice to resolve your problems?
Does your therapist often seem as bewildered and confused by your problems as you are?
Does your therapist rely on sympathetic platitudes advising you to ‘trust yourself’ and/or ‘be kind to yourself?’
Has your therapist subjected you to any kind of physical ordeal?
Instead of planning a therapy session, does your therapist merely react to whatever direction a session spontaneously takes?
Is your therapist unaware of who is included in your family and how they influence you?
Instead of planning how to influence the behavior of someone else in your life, does your therapist merely hope that those changes will transpire by themselves?
Is your therapist unresponsive to the idea of including other people in your therapy?
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